I think there is no single human being who doesn’t know about love but the definition of love is differ from person to person, some says love is everything without which you cannot live some says love is nothing it’s just an affection which may be controllable or may not.
My intension is not to bring similarities between these definitions, I am here trying to express what I believe in love it may be right or wrong. I want to make clear that I am not a philosopher my experience also very little on it, I am just trying to improve my writing skill that’s all.
Those who studied in a rural primary school they believe love is nothing but a sin which the college students do, in fact I am also came from same way and when you reach high school your view on love start to change(It’s all about my generation I don’t know about my preceding and following generation) mostly we hear the word love from our seniors but still it is strange for us as we just entered the high school at this age we can say age of 10 to 13 one or two of our classmates fall in love (I am not), and they try their best to keep it secret from others, finally when others know it they started to tease him or her as they did funniest thing.
As the time passes in our High school life we become very familiar to love as we reach the end stage of high school most of us fall in love and some extremist do something which get noticed by the society which lead to many problems I don’t want go further in it because my knowledge is very little on it.
The next stage college life this is the peak stage of love, the
same stage when we are in primary we say love is a sin which college students do but when we reach the college our view on love is completely opposite to it we feel love is necessity one must have, in some case the teasing also become reverse we tease those who don’t have love.
After collage our mental superiority will decrease soon when
we enter the society full of responsibility we feel like sick to enter this
class we just passed by golden age of life we struggle to stable our life at this stage love is still part of life but in this stage we keep it in treasury as once we settle in life we will move to the next stage of love all of us believe that the next and ultimate stage for love is getting married.
So far I described the impact of love in our different stages of life but it’s nothing but a fake definition of love which our mind created in these stages of life then what is the true definition of love as far as my knowledge I can’t define love but I can describe something about love through my life’s experience and my notice on this generation.
I strongly believe that Love begins with the birth (may be before birth I don’t know about it) from the birth a baby can identify its mother not only in human being but also animal, it like the nearness of its mother and some believe that including me within few days baby feels nearness of its father here the love begins to our father and mother please note that this is love of the baby but mother start love baby when she came to know she is pregnant and I can say before that because She pray with the god to get a good baby (our mother pray for our goodness she don’t know we will enter this world through her belly or not) I can say this also love.
Lets we move to the topic of baby as baby grow up it identify its family members or family friends those who love baby in return it also start to love them it will stay in their hand only if one else try to lift the baby it will cry.
Then as baby grow up it start to love its whole family, friends, religion, society & nation etc. until he or she fall in stupid love or I can say blind love I will describe this blind love later on before now I will move one step further the husband and wife I can’t describe much more about it but in simple terms we can say before the era of boy friend and girl friend the love between husband and wife’s treated as best stage of love after this the love of children’s and parents, grand children’s its go on until the last breath so "Love get born with our birth and remains still last breath of our life”. I didn’t mention one more Love the most sacred and dutiful love that is love towards creator we Muslim believe our
Prime responsibility to Love Allah and his Prophet (P.B.U.H)I will not go further on it because I am not suitable person for it.
A love between two strange hearts to say one man heart and one woman heart is what I say stupid love or blind love in some case we can say selfish love I can divide this to many categories as follows
1. Astray love or short period love:
A boy proposes to a girl she rejects it he feels guilty for some period
then follows his way.
2. Love for fun:
This also for a short period when a boy and girl being together may be in their study or at work place they know that they cannot be together in their future life but they do agreement between them to love each other until they are together.
3. Broken love:
Broken love when they fall in love they say they will never apart but one of them brake this bond and other one say “My heart is broken” it’s good that still it pumps blood to keep him alive and after that he or she follow some stupid way like suicide and those who not dare for it start to feel lonely still his parents who loved him more than anyone else with him and he start to sing some sad songs like “My love is gone my love is gone” and some chose to write as I did check my previous blogs for reference .
4. Harmful Love:
Harmful love or we can say it selfish love a boy and girl love each other and they want success in their love, their success means getting married to each other for this they may do anything they may harm to their self also. I want to remind my own quote here “A glance is enough to create unforgettable love between two hearts…. They say they we will die but never apart….. Guys what you think about them… Who loved you before your birth and who cared when you are kid… who loved you more than anyone else and who will love you until the end of life… the words are not enough to talk about them still we go against them for love of a glance aren’t we are so selfish.”
Yes I can say it as selfish love two strange people fall in love and they say they will never apart but they can forget the love of their parents and their well wishers is it not a selfish I love a girl I want to marry her at any cost or I love her because she is so beautiful and we name it love at first site and some may claim that their love is so pure that we never seen each other but still we are in love I am also did that but my ultimate goal is to marry her is it not a selfish and I dream that she is beautiful and some people follow purely selfish love may be for the money or something else I am not an A grade writer to define it.
This kind of love is harmful to themselves or for their family, we say love is blind in fact love is not blind we are blind to fall in love, we know that our parents will not accept it still we say “I will do anything to marry her”, we are scaling Mothers love and stupid love and we feel that stupid love is heavier than mothers love. The one who prayed for your goodness before there is no sign of you and who struggled nine months to keep you in her belly and suffered 57 Del(unit) of pain (This is Similar to 20 Bones getting Fractured, at a time a normal man can handle up to 45 Del of pain it is much more than that ) to bring you in this world. Yes this is your mother and when you scale your mother and your lover you find a love at first sight is better one.
5. Successful love:
Successful love this is a love passed by many stages and finally reaches its goal namely marriage after that what? No answer.
Many surveys says that love marriages end up with divorce more than arranged marriages both of them understand each other well they are ready to fight with the world but when they get married they cannot keep their relationship stable (this is not in all case many love marriages really succeed) the reasons are many I don’t want to go further in it but I wish them best.
6. Strange love or Pure love:
This is a kind of love where I cannot throw stone on it but very rarely we can see this type of love unfortunately I am one of them. Here there is no place for selfishness I love a girl I know that I cannot marry her I didn’t expressed my love to her She is my best friend since now I ever got I still love her She is married and have a kid too I never met her from last many years I just pray for her happiness I can quote here words from my own incomplete book BORN UNLUCKY where I written “My love is not selfish and cheap to marry her at any cost by harming anyone but my love is pure and great I don’t want anything from her I just want to see her living happily”.
I can give example for this I love Taj Mahal I don’t want to buy it if someoneappreciate it I feel good If something wrong happened to Taj Mahal then I feel sad isn’t it pure love but still I put it in stupid love category because society will not accept it if I said the same to her husband now, he may take it in wrong way.
Don’t lose hope in your love by reading my words, have your own way but don’t make your love harmful to any one mainly to your parents
When I am child I loved butterflies I try to catch it and at the end its death in my hand what a love???? ..
By the way I love all of you my dear friends….. Husain_with_you
